I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.
Say there are two friends. They are the lover and the beloved, each absorbed in love of the other. If the lover, either by what he does or fails to do, displeased the Beloved, the Friend shuns him, that is the Friend turns away from him in aversion. Then the lover must immediately apologize and continuously repent. If he does, the Beloved will become content with him. But if the lover persists in his error and refuses to apologize, the turning away becomes a veil between them; it is the Beloved who puts a veil between them. Then the lover must repent, yet if he delays further, the veil multiplies. What happens beyond this point? If the Friend becomes separate from His friend, and the latter still does not repent, the latter will waste the excess merit which has accrued to him from all his supererogatory devotions and prayers and other actions. If he still does not repent and persists in that foolishness, then he forfeits the basis, that is the comfort in obedience, which had preceded the accumulation of excess. If even at this point he falls short of complete repentance, there is a hardening of the heart—that is, the Friend separates Himself even in His heart. If he remains obdurate in his failure to repent, the hardening of the heart turns to enmity.
Shaykh Nizamuddin Auliya, Fawa’id al-Fu’ad as translated by Bruce B. Lawrence.
Assembly 16, Tuesday, 19th of Jumada al-ula, AH 708 (6 November 1308)